Book, Coffee and a Cigarette.

Hola amigos

I’m posting this from sunny Seville.
This post’s acting as my notification for my prolonged hiatus from the blog.

 

I have been here for a while, with my 3 close friends and in truth, its been a ride. Love, hate, deep convos, fights, etc.

It’s been a hell of a ride so far, and in truth, it has been a needed get away as it allowed me to reassess not only my position (internally) but my friends also.

As I have mentioned before, I felt I have not grown spiritually (Mediation, composure, etc.) wise since the last year and a half. I have had people dispute that but this is an area I feel I have not been able to properly improve on due to the rush of final year at university.

This in some essence could be linked to my reactions of late, an issue between Chimi and I escalated, in which “shots” at my girl was taken, and unlike my previous stance as being melancholic/passive, I took the aggressive approach.

After the dust had settled, all I’m hearing is that “You have changed” “I liked the old you”.
Which is not the first time I am hearing this.

I have also been told I have fallen into the “egotistical” and “narcissistic” side, on the basis that I take care of myself and actually care about how my hair (Dreads) and clothes look. This is their terms is a sign I care what people think.

Just a few stuff I’ve been pondering on since last night.
Not put off, not not angry, not upset

Just indifferent.
It’s not that deep. – My current motto

I get angry, sad, happy, and then I move on

Its not that deep – I think I expect everyone to follow this way of reasoning with me….humm

I was told “not everything has to be about “you” Eric, sometimes you have to sacrifice”

Well, if sacrificing means being in-congruent with my thoughts and feelings, well….

 

Anyways, I’ve got a book and a cup of coffee with my name on it. The pull from this malboro cigarette and an exhale of carbon-mono-oxide into the Spanish air soothes my soul.

I feel as if after this break, I won’t be lacking in those areas I previously mentioned, as to whether I would revert back…no chance.

TBC

DemiGodComplex

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A Man In Your Prime

So, to follow up my previous post –  The Ultimate Team
I thought it’d be good to elaborate on why these guys are my close friends.

It goes beyond growing up together, developing our relationships. The main reason I rate the guys mentioned in my post as members in my team boils down to the fact that we are all aligned with our focus to becoming a fully developed man once our prime comes.

We’re all in our early 20’s, and ideally most men peak between their mid to late 30’s (35 – 40), so we’ve got about 2 decades to reach this goal – God willing.

 

Kai Greene. Check out the movie Generation Iron

Kai Greene. Check out the movie Generation Iron

From the previous post, its pretty evident that we do not share the same personality. On the other hand we all share the same end goal but our standard on values and what makes us feel good are all different.

I classed these guys as main because they want to get good at every aspect of their lives. We do, I know i do, have other friends outside these guys that are also doing well in life but they have not bought into the idea of self development. They have elements that I would like to take on, but they do not represent the ultimate version I would like to become e.g. some are laying numerous amount of girls but flunking exams, some own there own business but are unfit, some have completely accepted themselves but are constantly doing drugs.

 

With this mind, I look at what I have achieved since I was 16 and look towards what I want to achieve when I am 35 – Becoming a man in my prime. They do not tie into it. I have done good so far. I mean, I know I have, with my my guys, have long left the BETA male sect.

How do I know this ?
In my opinion, if you want to gauge whether you’re a man in your prime (or working towards it) is pretty much, if you have a girl you’ve dated and you dumped her does she stalk you and/or threaten to kill herself.

I'd prob be the cat in this pic. meh.

I’d prob be the cat in this pic. meh.

Think about, any guy you know that’s in the gym, highly intelligent, knows how to act as man, has decent game, well dressed and a decent lifestyle. Just fucking on it. whatever girl he’s dating, the amount of energy she gets of him is insane.
– Fair enough, not every girl will try to commit suicide because of you, but they’re are a few of those girls around.

Reason why this happens is because when you have that much going on, you become such a rare breed that the gap between yourself and the other guys becomes so vast. If you cut her out of your life, there’s not going to be a lot of opportunities for her to replace you, its going to be very very difficult for her to do so.
It might not be your desire to press leverage on the girl, its just a sign that you have spent so much time developing yourself and your value that if you decided to pull that rug from underneath her the value of her life will decrease so rapidly. The quality of her life, her direction, good emotions, etc –  will all go *poof* and she’ll end up crazy.

B, if you continue, this shall be you in the near future

B in the near future

Funny now. Not so funny then.

Funny now. Not so funny then.

This provides insight into why girls will let their guys date /see multiple girls.
She hates that its happening but at the same time, she tried seeing other guys but he can’t match the amount of value being brought to the table previously.

She might hate that others fancy you but...hey

She might hate that others fancy you but…hey

Its not a money thing, but rather the way I am going to relate to that girl. They way that I am going to have her emotionally.The feeling of safety she is going to feel with me and what I’m going to do to her sexually and physically will  just be lethally enrapturing.

Pull a Kevin Hart then violate her

Pull a Kevin Hart then violate her

Not a lot of guys talk about stuff like this, being honest getting my guys into this mindset also was difficult. But we sat down and just talked, we’re 22 now. If we were to spend a further decade focussing on self development, buy the time we’re 32 we’d be peaking at every level, the amount of value we’d be bringing would be immense.

Our most valued attribute – Our ambition
Our most valued attribute in other people – Good Intentions

Roll out like superheroes

Roll out like superheroes

 

Part 2 of the 3 part post.

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The Ultimate Team

What’s good people, how are things with you ?

I’m  dandy – just to let you know.

Don’t worry, my absence – regarding regular posts – shall soon be reduced.

I’m almost done with my degree, got about 3 weeks left to end this 3 year pursuit of a diploma – Good times.
I can’t wait to pick up on my other hobbies that have been neglected due to the hectic final year schedule I have encountered.

 

Deuces Uni

Deuces Uni

Any ways, with the end of another academic year fast approaching, it signals the beginning of every ones favourite time of the year – I’m indifferent to this usually but seeing as it’ll be my first summer before going into full time work/new venture of any sorts, this one is quite special.

I shall be going on holiday with a few mates. Everything’s sorted, the villa, the lads, the girls. All that’s left are the house party cups and the absurd outfits I will be wearing.

La villa

La villa

As I mentioned, I’ll be going with my mates – Scratch that, “brothers from another mother”.
With that, its bound to be epic, even though we will be accompanied by our girlfriends.

I have practically grown up with these guys, college and work wise. We all have different personalities but the cohesion between the unit is unique. Plus, the scenarios we tend to get ourselves into…..Man, madness.

Bro's mayne

Bro’s mayne

 

I’ll give you a run down of what they’re like using characters from popular TV shows. If you don’t know the characters, well you have some research to do then.

 

Sam -The Dean Winchester of the group

Sam when he's drunk

Sam when he’s drunk hah

The typical man’s man. Blunt honesty, slightly cocky, toned physique, macho personality. Basically everything you’d expect from an old school male. Typically a very simple dude with a lot of muscle – The gym motivator of the crew. You know what you get with him; no games, no play, just straight, honest answers which is what he’s loved for.
You need that person around you that’s smack you in the face if you’re messing up. I know for a fact he wouldn’t hesitate to hit me across the head (he has) if I did something stupid (Which I usually do).
On the flip side, he’ll be the same person to do fully support, if not exceed any testosterone driven mission. Drinking his way into stupor just for the hell of it in right up his alley. The team’s real friend.

 

Chimi – Harvey Spector

yupp

yupp

You know that friend that is always money concious, like strictly financially driven, yeah, that’s Chimi for you.
If it generally doesn’t revolve around cash inflow you’d hardly see him involved. He bares the same “winning” mentality as Harvey, as well as his dress sense. Suits, ties, smart casual boat shoes, clean low cut hair, all these fall into his outward appearance.
An individual with a large appetite for the finer things in life and an even larger appetite for wealth. He’s pure motivation, he’s the guy that you’d go for if you needed a lecturing on improvement and dedication. Alongside this, his work ethic boarders on madness, I’m talking over 60 hours a week whilst in full time education.
He also possess a strong possessive/authoritative personality which makes him the perfect partner to run game with, as he’s more direct and I’m naturally inclined to run an indirect type of approach. The perfect hype guy all we do is talk each other into doing the most illicit things imaginable just because, which actually end up happening. Everything is a good idea and is achievable, well almost anything (as long as he has bought into it)with that, it becomes a good idea and is achievable. The team’s dreamer.

 

 

My self – Hank Moody

Just about right

Just about right

I’m the writer of the pack. The philosophical guy. Soft spoken – But not so soft, introverted personality with a logical outlook on things. I’m pretty much the laid back guy of the pack.
Not always around the whole club scene and venues for parties as much but if it is has any sort of worth, I would have been invited. Unlike the other 2, I  show little reaction in situations and like Hank, this tends to appear “interesting” to girls so I have been told – I know…weird. Also, like Hank I have a “Karen” also.

I think before doing things most times, even though I go down the path that carries with it a lot of drama – My choices are driven by love. Not too much attention devoted to making money compared to Chimi, or getting overly muscular and macho like Sam, but I do fall into the middle.

 

 

That’s a run down of the guys I’ll be spending 2 weeks with.
From previous experiences, I’ll most likely be the one pouring the alcohol into the shot glass in the morning  alongside Sam -who shall be topless; whilst Chimi concentrates on lacing up his boat shoes and making sure he looks immaculate before we head out to wreck havoc on the unsuspecting victims of Seville.

 

 

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Correlation of traits, values, beliefs and characteristics between Generation Y and entrepreneurs.

Correlation of traits, values, beliefs and characteristics between Generation Y and entrepreneurs.

Its a quick 2min survey needed for my journal article. Please take the time out to fill it out for me. It’s on a really interesting topic, something I’d definitely be blogging about soon enough.

Much Love

DemiGodComplex

Guys

So I’m writing this sipping on a can of Carlsberg after handing in my reflective essay/report thing – Mild celebratory tactics for me after slaving to produce that very annoying piece of course work.

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mhmmm

This post shall be following the same reflective stance

Let me set the scene here..

So, Some weeks back I got into this conversation with a female friend of mine, roughly the same age range as myself – early 20’s.

She, Crissy, wanted to know about the thought processes of guys basically. How we think, what we like, how we communicate and all that jazz – I’m guessing she had guy issues at this point.

I thought the whole scenario was a really good one, on two counts anyway. The first being the question and the second because she asked a GUY about advice on guys. – Makes sense asking the mechanic to tell you what’s wrong with the car.

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How girls look giving advice on guys

At that moment I was pretty much stumped, but I was honest and told her I don’t know how guys communicate. It wouldn’t make sense if I sat there and painted guys as heroes that are always open, that would be a lie. They are still, and will always be passive aggressive meandering man boys out there generally.

I’d like to think (as well as all dudes) I am this complex, deep in thought, aloof, philosophical individual guy, yet I and my male brethren still find ourselves in week long conversations about whether or not we’d do a girl that didn’t have a nose.

Yeah, I know..hah

Soo after pondering on the whole thing I came up some generic pieces of advice for her on what all dudes like, I just told her what I like from girls, and its really a few simple things.

1) Learn how to cook and cook

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Buns 🙂

Sounds so stereotypical but I do not mean it in a sexist way, so calm down. For some weird reason nowadays making your guy (or a guy you fancy) a meal or something is seen as the most degrading thing you can do yet these same females want guys to hold the doors open for them and buy drinks for them when we’re out ?

Sounds simple enough right, but as I always say, us guys are very simple, and by simple I don’t mean stupid before some you get on your high horse

I remember one weekend a while back, I had my girl over at mine visiting. The Arsenal football match had just started when she went to the kitchen to make me an egg, mayo and bacon sandwich. She brought it to me accompanied with a bottle of Budweiser – King of beers!
And I tell you, it was one of the most beautiful moments of our relationship.

I mean, you do that once in a while and he’ll think “I’ve got a keeper”. My current gains at the moment are directly attributed to the packs she makes each weekend.

2) Don’t be a slob

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Guys are naturally inclined to be messy and this is not an excuse. I am messy. And by messy I mean clothes on the floor stuff not the not showering, overgrown hair, body odour, crusty toes messy. That’s just messed up. I’m not looking to discover new diseases with you, why so dirty ? They’re a few that can benefit from walking through a car wash for a quick clean.  If his place is messy, tidy that shit, be his organizer. Doing stuff like that automatically puts ahead of 80% of the women we know.

3) Just chill

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Men want to be alone, but they don’t want to be by them self. We want you around, on the roof, in the vents, the next room, preferably the kitchen, anywhere but not right in our face with words and stuff.

This is how simple guys are, if you actually every once in s while said “hey, do you want a beer” and you actually got up and went to the fridge to go get it, and actually put it in a frosted glass, personally speaking I’m ready to paint your toes and do all those cuddly girly things. Heck, keep it up and you might eventually get me to watch “the notebook” – And yes, based on the number of rejections I’ve dished out over the years, it is a feat.

Have you ever been in love with a woman and be thinking “Ahh, I love her soo much, I want to spend the rest of my life with her, I want to have a child with her” then I remember she can’t cook and go…”nehh, on her titties instead, allow that” – hah, I can’t be the only one

What shall it gain a man to attain a spouse that cooks like this ?

What shall it gain a man to attain a spouse that cooks like this ?

On that note, I’m done, I’ve got work in the morning + presents to buy and I tend to get very picky when choosing. Nothing makes any sense.

S3Oof4K

Anyways, my mate and I are gonna go “Houdini” this girl. – should be fun.

DemiGodComplex

Who You Spend Time With Is Who You Become.

"I'm not competing with someone else, I'm competing with what I'm capable of"

“I’m not competing with someone else, I’m competing with what I’m capable of”

Hmm

Most of us lower our standards – Why?

Because who you spend time with is who you become.
One of the biggest reasons why I try to do things on my own (Gym, work, uni, etc.) is because finding people with the same level or with  higher standards, are quite difficult to come by, especially in this generation.

Finding someone who lives to that standard you’re attaining to, and having the person constantly around you is very difficult. – For example, my first and best gym partner is studying at a different city so we only really train during the holidays. But then it’s too late cause we’re all catching up with other mates as well as working.

Hence why I advocate being estranged from certain groups, or if possible, convert someone into your beliefs or find someone that already shares in those beliefs.

Hibari type movements. Get to know.

Hibari type movements. Get to know.

Never  adopt, compare or settle for their low standards. 

I mention compare, which could also mean compete.

When you’re around people with low standards, to compete with them……You don’t have to compete with them. There’s no pressure to progress. – A different kind of plateau.

Look at shows like Jeremy Kyle, Jerry springer, 18 and preggers etc. I always wondered where they found people like them and why these kind of shows are so popular.

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The reason is because you watch these people and go “My life is better than them, I don’t have to change, I’m already doing good”. – Blissfully entering that comfort zone again.

Comfort zones lead to obesity - true story

Comfort zones lead to obesity – true story

You don’t have to change. Once you get around people with low standards or that are performing less than you,  you automatically feel better, your happiness towards yourself spikes a little bit and you feel good. But alas, its an illusion.

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I can’t be the only one that found this hilarious ?  *Sheldon Cooper moment*

The only thing that’s going to make you happy is stepping up. Raise the standard. Feel that pressure pushing through you, which will get you to that other side.

Don't bore me with the details. I'm doing this.

Don’t bore me with the details. I’m doing this.

Pretty short post I just wanted to get out before heading gym. I didn’t feel the need to emphasize on it any further, it’s pretty much easy to understand I reckon.

I’ve attached an ask.fm link below for my readers to anonymously drop their thoughts, questions, comment or ideas on topics they might harbour. It’s all anonymous as I have previously mentioned, so don’t worry, you won’t get found out.

It’d be pretty dope to hear your perspectives.

Anyway, It’s like 10:45 pm now and I’ve got a squat rack with my name on it.
P.s I’ve finished on the interlude to “pull the trigger then bite the mango”, pretty sweet.
Toodles.

Here’s the link –  http://ask.fm/R3lax_

DemiGodComplex.

2014. Rituals.

My first post of 2014  – …and in a while if I am honest.
I had written other posts ages ago but they did not seem to have the urgency I wanted from them, I was not pushed to post them. – For this, I have no explanation.

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Meh..

BUTTT! I finally wrote a post that I actually enjoyed and, I actually looked forward to putting this one out – This post made me feel some type of way.

PREACH BRUDDA!

PREACH BRUDDA!

Anyways, as we all know, its 2014. BUT, most of us still seem to be living that old 2013 life. I have had people around me already walk into failures – and its only January ? :/

This post is basically my wake up call to them – and also others. We can all relate to this.
I offer insight on success and failure and how these are achieved. – This will be through rituals.

Growth baby

Growth baby!

It only takes fundamental basics to change your life.
It only takes a move then you do your life changes. – Raise your standards, expect more from yourself!

Have you ever challenged yourself to raise your standards but you failed ?
Basically, this is because you failed to keep up with you rituals.

As human beings, rituals define us.
All the results in our lives are determined by our rituals.

For example, if you are physically fit (Like myself 🙂 )you won’t share the same daily rituals with someone who is not physically fit.
I wake up, roll out of bed, make my coffee accompanied by my first meal of the day, slip on my shoes and then head to the gym.
If you’re not physically fit, you probably wake up, hit the snooze button on your phone then head back to bed. When you eventually wake up, you roll around in bed for a couple of minutes before actually leaving it to get some food (that’s probably going to raise your cortisol levels) before heading back to the same bed to begin killing your brain cells by watching some reality TV.

A couple more years, and that me on the left

Nuff said

– Still don’t understand ?

Another example then. If you are in a passionate relationship, you have a very different rituals compared to someone who is in a lousy one. In a lousy one you probably get home and start tweeting and messaging other people, in the process avoiding your spouse whilst the passionate ones are busy conversing through out the whole day; planning when next they are going to see each other and what they are going to do. – Girls that lost their guys to the “sidechick” phenomenon, the latter is what she was doing. Basically, everything you weren’t.

..Soon com ;)

..Soon com 😉

I digress….moving on

See, what I’ve learnt from my research and basic study on successful people and myself is that success and failure ARE NOT OVERNIGHT EVENTS.
They don’t just “show up”. You do not just “suddenly” become successful or “suddenly” have this cataclysmic event that makes you fail. It might look that way, but its not.
Failure comes from those little things….Failing to complete those little rituals.
Its failure to make that call, its failure to check you accounts, its failure to say “I am sorry”, its failure to push your self to do those things you did not want to do.
All those little failures day after day come together till one day a cataclysmic event happens and you blame that – That event happens because you missed all those little stuff.

The same can be applied to success. Success is having a vision, success is making it compelling, success is really feeling that dream every single day- living and breathing it, success is calling/messaging to say “I love you” in the middle of the day for no particular reason!. – How many relationships are dead today because they lack any surprise rituals. Countless mate.

You need to have some rituals, cool things you do that give you a better life. This can be applied to all areas of your life also.

My fave, the mental "Self-five"

Try one of my faves, the mental “Self-five”

There is a saying by some guy, “you are rewarded in public for what you practise in private”. – I couldn’t be asked to Google then cite the guy. Allow me, this ain’t uni work.

In conclusion, its pretty much as simple as that really.
Make your success rituals a lifestyle.

I believe!!!

Do you believe?!…I believe! *holds out arm*

DemiGodComplex.