– Proverbs 12:11 (NIV)
Damn, been a while friends.
On my last post I mentioned how work had me tied up. – Serious understatement
Sleepless nights, fatigue, roughly sleeping only 4 hrs a day.
Truly stressful, no lie. But as I always say when it involves working out of my comfort zone, “it has to be done” – period
I quoted a Bible passage – I know, me (Enough with the sarcastic looks).
Even though I still harbor issues on the path Christianity is taking in our current times, this doesn’t dissolve the importance of the words in the book. Especially the books of proverbs for me. – Life wisdom conveniently provided in a soft back, and easily digestible publication.
Regardless of what the Bible says and taking God out of things. One thing is for sure, you only reap what you sow. Put in hard work in anything form and you shall reap progress. In most cases, its slow. But its progress nonetheless.
It matters not what you’re doing for money or development – from working as a cleaner to starting weightlifting and only being able to bench 5 kg on each side of the bar. Its progress of some sorts, and for that you will improve.
Lets flashback here.
So the beginning of summer, I put in mad shifts at my retail job and got quite a bit but after a while the temporary contract came to an end. I was without a job for about 2 months. – Mind you, I hate working, or should I say, I despise menial jobs so not working at the store wasn’t really an issue for me.
For those months where I wasn’t working. This extra time provided me with the opportunity to spend it with my close mates, doing random stuff but still money conscious with our dealings – being financially caged isn’t freedom and I yearn for this, in all its possible forms.
But this period of freedom allowed me excess time to read more as well as meditate and self reflect on myself, as well as more frequent one to one talks with my dad – A small/medium business owner.
I cant remember our conversations word for word but certain bits stuck.
I told him “I dislike working for someone else, creativity no matter what job they offer is hampered” His reply “If you hate it what are you doing at the moment, what provisions are you making to avoid ending up doing this for the next 40 years”, “learn the game then play it how you want to”, “one thing people your age lack is urgency”, “if you don’t have yourself in check you’re pathetic” and a few other quotes along those lines.
Anger ensued. Not cause of the words said, but its the honesty in his words. A few things became apparent to me. Man shall ever remain dreaming of a better tomorrow and man; for them not to regress, need some sort of activity done on a regular basis. Also dreamers annoy the life out of me. – Moving like Itachi has you in some genjutsu
Eventually, I did get a job. 3 at the same time in just the month of September. – All this after all the effort of interviews, business researching, practicing for interviews, rejections etc
I worked in all 3 before I finally settled for the job at a well reputable bank that around my area. – Yeah, I wear suits now lol. Plus, if I am going to be working, I might as well do it at a decent place.
All in all, what I am saying is you have to remain constant with ways in progressing yourself.
Give up hope and fantasies that shit will fall into your lap. – Unless your father is Dangote
Start making provisions to getting things done on your own.
When others were watching reality TV I was reading. When others were updating Facebook, I emerged myself in “ted talks” videos. When others were having that left over pizza from the night spent at the club, I was downing my coffee whilst heading to the gym. When others were getting overly drunk at the club and throwing up, I was convincing that young thang its safer if I walk her home, then… – Yeahh, a bit too much ?.
You should understand what I’m heading at. Don’t wonder “how” sh*t just happens. Do something and find out.
Results aren’t instant, but for that 0.00000001 daily self betterment, its worth it.
As my dad says, “progress is an accumulative thing” and due to focusing on work you might see other aspects of your life playing second fiddle to your main focus. – But it has to be done. We have all gone through those periods.
– Final year starts in a bit and its mainly going to be studying, work and the gym for me and I can’t actually wait.
Catch up now, or find out later.
BTW A quick shout out to all my readers, Thank you all. I see you 😉
Firstly, I should apologize for my absence – saving the world and reaping the rewards from these damsels can be quite time consuming.
On a serious note, I have been without my laptop for a while now as well also dealing with recent career applications and acceptances which, in all honesty have had me tied up. – I apologize and I will touch on the job subject on one of my upcoming posts.
Any ways, lets cut straight to the cheese here – let it rippppp
A while ago, I and my girl took a weekend trip away from where we reside, which is at London. We ended up at a her mates house in Coventry.
Her friend was kind enough to lend us his place – attic view, massive bed, PlayStation, flat screen TV and all sorts, kinda like a free hotel room.
Anyway, after getting the keys and waving him off. I was left with this petite figured female in just a shirt – Seriously, she picked me up from the station in just a shirt thing. – This led to the longest one hour and a bit before I finally isolated her from her peers.
A quick hug and a couple of smooches later after they had left, I decided we watch a movie. Luckily her dude friend had the whole Godfather series saved onto his PlayStation hard drive.
3 hours laterrr….. I’m kidding
Basically, we never made it through the movie but I could still remember certain clips from the film that resonated with me.
Since most of you reading this are smart and have adequate comprehensive skills, I’m going to paint out how a certain issue appears to me (in my head) using the movie characters/scene to make it more interesting.
The way Vito Corleone had forced the band leader guy to sign the Johnny Fontane contract is the same way I feel most guys are being pressured into certain choices.
Enough rambling, lets begin…
*skips to the scene of Luca Brasi holding a gun to the head of the Band leader*
Here, Vito Corleone proposes the idea of signing a lifetime employment contact to the band leader. – Pretty weird, I know. Legally they are somewhat unenforceable you’d think, but not in this case. This case is different. It can happen, he IS the Godfather after all.
Vito: Since you’ll be signing it, full disclosure is needed.
The business has a 50% failure rate within the next 10 years, and in the case it does fail, you have to fork out 50% of your net worth at the time.
Band Leader- but, but..
Vito: Hold on, there’s more. Depending on what verdict is reached at court, you could be paying 40% – 60% of your earnings to your (at that time) former partner and this could last between 10-20 years.
Band Leader- So many drawbacks, what are the gains ?
Vito: You will receive a substantial part of Johnny Fontane’s net worth at the time – which could be the same shape of an egg. 0.
Band leader – Uhm, if the agreement was that great why would you need a business partner in the first place ? Further more, I am betting my future, as well as current assets on just what you have right now ?.
*Am I a learner though*
Vito: In simple terms, Yes, you will be betting all that you’re worth on this. It’s like a sick game of chess, only difference is you wagered more and Jonny is allowed to cheat. (Casually throws in pun).
The contract also grants Johnny Fontane legal grounds to terminate the agreement at will, and this can be done without any rational reason.
Scenarios such as being “bored” with the agreement or “tired of being tied down”; not to mention the most common one, the “emergence of a new partner” are all accepted grounds for termination. – You just wake up and *poof* band leader guy, you’re gone.
Band Leader: …
Vito Corleone – Played by religion, society, etc.
Luca Brasi – Played by parents, family members.
The band Leader – My male brethren.
… guess who’s playing Johnny Fontane. ;).
“Luca Brasi held a gun to his head, and my father (Vito) assured him that either his brains or his signature would be on the contract.”
– Chances that it won’t happen seem slim, most guys won’t mind tying the not to be honest. Main thing I’d say is making sure your “Johnny Fontane” is contract worthy. Also, you (as a man) are present and efficient enough in satisfying the needs for your little ones. You could argue there’s more to it, and you might be right (I’m always open to hearing people’s opinions) but as it stands, my priorities are different. They might change and they might not. We’ll see how things pan out.