So, to follow up my previous post – The Ultimate Team
I thought it’d be good to elaborate on why these guys are my close friends.
It goes beyond growing up together, developing our relationships. The main reason I rate the guys mentioned in my post as members in my team boils down to the fact that we are all aligned with our focus to becoming a fully developed man once our prime comes.
We’re all in our early 20’s, and ideally most men peak between their mid to late 30’s (35 – 40), so we’ve got about 2 decades to reach this goal – God willing.
From the previous post, its pretty evident that we do not share the same personality. On the other hand we all share the same end goal but our standard on values and what makes us feel good are all different.
I classed these guys as main because they want to get good at every aspect of their lives. We do, I know i do, have other friends outside these guys that are also doing well in life but they have not bought into the idea of self development. They have elements that I would like to take on, but they do not represent the ultimate version I would like to become e.g. some are laying numerous amount of girls but flunking exams, some own there own business but are unfit, some have completely accepted themselves but are constantly doing drugs.
With this mind, I look at what I have achieved since I was 16 and look towards what I want to achieve when I am 35 – Becoming a man in my prime. They do not tie into it. I have done good so far. I mean, I know I have, with my my guys, have long left the BETA male sect.
How do I know this ?
In my opinion, if you want to gauge whether you’re a man in your prime (or working towards it) is pretty much, if you have a girl you’ve dated and you dumped her does she stalk you and/or threaten to kill herself.
Think about, any guy you know that’s in the gym, highly intelligent, knows how to act as man, has decent game, well dressed and a decent lifestyle. Just fucking on it. whatever girl he’s dating, the amount of energy she gets of him is insane.
– Fair enough, not every girl will try to commit suicide because of you, but they’re are a few of those girls around.
Reason why this happens is because when you have that much going on, you become such a rare breed that the gap between yourself and the other guys becomes so vast. If you cut her out of your life, there’s not going to be a lot of opportunities for her to replace you, its going to be very very difficult for her to do so.
It might not be your desire to press leverage on the girl, its just a sign that you have spent so much time developing yourself and your value that if you decided to pull that rug from underneath her the value of her life will decrease so rapidly. The quality of her life, her direction, good emotions, etc – will all go *poof* and she’ll end up crazy.
This provides insight into why girls will let their guys date /see multiple girls.
She hates that its happening but at the same time, she tried seeing other guys but he can’t match the amount of value being brought to the table previously.
Its not a money thing, but rather the way I am going to relate to that girl. They way that I am going to have her emotionally.The feeling of safety she is going to feel with me and what I’m going to do to her sexually and physically will just be lethally enrapturing.
Not a lot of guys talk about stuff like this, being honest getting my guys into this mindset also was difficult. But we sat down and just talked, we’re 22 now. If we were to spend a further decade focussing on self development, buy the time we’re 32 we’d be peaking at every level, the amount of value we’d be bringing would be immense.
Our most valued attribute – Our ambition
Our most valued attribute in other people – Good Intentions
Part 2 of the 3 part post.
What’s good people, how are things with you ?
I’m dandy – just to let you know.
Don’t worry, my absence – regarding regular posts – shall soon be reduced.
I’m almost done with my degree, got about 3 weeks left to end this 3 year pursuit of a diploma – Good times.
I can’t wait to pick up on my other hobbies that have been neglected due to the hectic final year schedule I have encountered.
Any ways, with the end of another academic year fast approaching, it signals the beginning of every ones favourite time of the year – I’m indifferent to this usually but seeing as it’ll be my first summer before going into full time work/new venture of any sorts, this one is quite special.
I shall be going on holiday with a few mates. Everything’s sorted, the villa, the lads, the girls. All that’s left are the house party cups and the absurd outfits I will be wearing.
As I mentioned, I’ll be going with my mates – Scratch that, “brothers from another mother”.
With that, its bound to be epic, even though we will be accompanied by our girlfriends.
I have practically grown up with these guys, college and work wise. We all have different personalities but the cohesion between the unit is unique. Plus, the scenarios we tend to get ourselves into…..Man, madness.
I’ll give you a run down of what they’re like using characters from popular TV shows. If you don’t know the characters, well you have some research to do then.
Sam -The Dean Winchester of the group
The typical man’s man. Blunt honesty, slightly cocky, toned physique, macho personality. Basically everything you’d expect from an old school male. Typically a very simple dude with a lot of muscle – The gym motivator of the crew. You know what you get with him; no games, no play, just straight, honest answers which is what he’s loved for.
You need that person around you that’s smack you in the face if you’re messing up. I know for a fact he wouldn’t hesitate to hit me across the head (he has) if I did something stupid (Which I usually do).
On the flip side, he’ll be the same person to do fully support, if not exceed any testosterone driven mission. Drinking his way into stupor just for the hell of it in right up his alley. The team’s real friend.
Chimi – Harvey Spector
You know that friend that is always money concious, like strictly financially driven, yeah, that’s Chimi for you.
If it generally doesn’t revolve around cash inflow you’d hardly see him involved. He bares the same “winning” mentality as Harvey, as well as his dress sense. Suits, ties, smart casual boat shoes, clean low cut hair, all these fall into his outward appearance.
An individual with a large appetite for the finer things in life and an even larger appetite for wealth. He’s pure motivation, he’s the guy that you’d go for if you needed a lecturing on improvement and dedication. Alongside this, his work ethic boarders on madness, I’m talking over 60 hours a week whilst in full time education.
He also possess a strong possessive/authoritative personality which makes him the perfect partner to run game with, as he’s more direct and I’m naturally inclined to run an indirect type of approach. The perfect hype guy all we do is talk each other into doing the most illicit things imaginable just because, which actually end up happening. Everything is a good idea and is achievable, well almost anything (as long as he has bought into it)with that, it becomes a good idea and is achievable. The team’s dreamer.
My self – Hank Moody
I’m the writer of the pack. The philosophical guy. Soft spoken – But not so soft, introverted personality with a logical outlook on things. I’m pretty much the laid back guy of the pack.
Not always around the whole club scene and venues for parties as much but if it is has any sort of worth, I would have been invited. Unlike the other 2, I show little reaction in situations and like Hank, this tends to appear “interesting” to girls so I have been told – I know…weird. Also, like Hank I have a “Karen” also.
I think before doing things most times, even though I go down the path that carries with it a lot of drama – My choices are driven by love. Not too much attention devoted to making money compared to Chimi, or getting overly muscular and macho like Sam, but I do fall into the middle.
That’s a run down of the guys I’ll be spending 2 weeks with.
From previous experiences, I’ll most likely be the one pouring the alcohol into the shot glass in the morning alongside Sam -who shall be topless; whilst Chimi concentrates on lacing up his boat shoes and making sure he looks immaculate before we head out to wreck havoc on the unsuspecting victims of Seville.
Most of us lower our standards – Why?
Because who you spend time with is who you become.
One of the biggest reasons why I try to do things on my own (Gym, work, uni, etc.) is because finding people with the same level or with higher standards, are quite difficult to come by, especially in this generation.
Finding someone who lives to that standard you’re attaining to, and having the person constantly around you is very difficult. – For example, my first and best gym partner is studying at a different city so we only really train during the holidays. But then it’s too late cause we’re all catching up with other mates as well as working.
Hence why I advocate being estranged from certain groups, or if possible, convert someone into your beliefs or find someone that already shares in those beliefs.
Never adopt, compare or settle for their low standards.
I mention compare, which could also mean compete.
When you’re around people with low standards, to compete with them……You don’t have to compete with them. There’s no pressure to progress. – A different kind of plateau.
Look at shows like Jeremy Kyle, Jerry springer, 18 and preggers etc. I always wondered where they found people like them and why these kind of shows are so popular.
The reason is because you watch these people and go “My life is better than them, I don’t have to change, I’m already doing good”. – Blissfully entering that comfort zone again.
You don’t have to change. Once you get around people with low standards or that are performing less than you, you automatically feel better, your happiness towards yourself spikes a little bit and you feel good. But alas, its an illusion.
The only thing that’s going to make you happy is stepping up. Raise the standard. Feel that pressure pushing through you, which will get you to that other side.
Pretty short post I just wanted to get out before heading gym. I didn’t feel the need to emphasize on it any further, it’s pretty much easy to understand I reckon.
I’ve attached an ask.fm link below for my readers to anonymously drop their thoughts, questions, comment or ideas on topics they might harbour. It’s all anonymous as I have previously mentioned, so don’t worry, you won’t get found out.
It’d be pretty dope to hear your perspectives.
Anyway, It’s like 10:45 pm now and I’ve got a squat rack with my name on it.
P.s I’ve finished on the interlude to “pull the trigger then bite the mango”, pretty sweet.
Here’s the link – http://ask.fm/R3lax_
Firstly, I should apologize for my absence – saving the world and reaping the rewards from these damsels can be quite time consuming.
On a serious note, I have been without my laptop for a while now as well also dealing with recent career applications and acceptances which, in all honesty have had me tied up. – I apologize and I will touch on the job subject on one of my upcoming posts.
Any ways, lets cut straight to the cheese here – let it rippppp
A while ago, I and my girl took a weekend trip away from where we reside, which is at London. We ended up at a her mates house in Coventry.
Her friend was kind enough to lend us his place – attic view, massive bed, PlayStation, flat screen TV and all sorts, kinda like a free hotel room.
Anyway, after getting the keys and waving him off. I was left with this petite figured female in just a shirt – Seriously, she picked me up from the station in just a shirt thing. – This led to the longest one hour and a bit before I finally isolated her from her peers.
A quick hug and a couple of smooches later after they had left, I decided we watch a movie. Luckily her dude friend had the whole Godfather series saved onto his PlayStation hard drive.
3 hours laterrr….. I’m kidding
Basically, we never made it through the movie but I could still remember certain clips from the film that resonated with me.
Since most of you reading this are smart and have adequate comprehensive skills, I’m going to paint out how a certain issue appears to me (in my head) using the movie characters/scene to make it more interesting.
The way Vito Corleone had forced the band leader guy to sign the Johnny Fontane contract is the same way I feel most guys are being pressured into certain choices.
Enough rambling, lets begin…
*skips to the scene of Luca Brasi holding a gun to the head of the Band leader*
Here, Vito Corleone proposes the idea of signing a lifetime employment contact to the band leader. – Pretty weird, I know. Legally they are somewhat unenforceable you’d think, but not in this case. This case is different. It can happen, he IS the Godfather after all.
Vito: Since you’ll be signing it, full disclosure is needed.
The business has a 50% failure rate within the next 10 years, and in the case it does fail, you have to fork out 50% of your net worth at the time.
Band Leader- but, but..
Vito: Hold on, there’s more. Depending on what verdict is reached at court, you could be paying 40% – 60% of your earnings to your (at that time) former partner and this could last between 10-20 years.
Band Leader- So many drawbacks, what are the gains ?
Vito: You will receive a substantial part of Johnny Fontane’s net worth at the time – which could be the same shape of an egg. 0.
Band leader – Uhm, if the agreement was that great why would you need a business partner in the first place ? Further more, I am betting my future, as well as current assets on just what you have right now ?.
*Am I a learner though*
Vito: In simple terms, Yes, you will be betting all that you’re worth on this. It’s like a sick game of chess, only difference is you wagered more and Jonny is allowed to cheat. (Casually throws in pun).
The contract also grants Johnny Fontane legal grounds to terminate the agreement at will, and this can be done without any rational reason.
Scenarios such as being “bored” with the agreement or “tired of being tied down”; not to mention the most common one, the “emergence of a new partner” are all accepted grounds for termination. – You just wake up and *poof* band leader guy, you’re gone.
Band Leader: …
Vito Corleone – Played by religion, society, etc.
Luca Brasi – Played by parents, family members.
The band Leader – My male brethren.
… guess who’s playing Johnny Fontane. ;).
“Luca Brasi held a gun to his head, and my father (Vito) assured him that either his brains or his signature would be on the contract.”
– Chances that it won’t happen seem slim, most guys won’t mind tying the not to be honest. Main thing I’d say is making sure your “Johnny Fontane” is contract worthy. Also, you (as a man) are present and efficient enough in satisfying the needs for your little ones. You could argue there’s more to it, and you might be right (I’m always open to hearing people’s opinions) but as it stands, my priorities are different. They might change and they might not. We’ll see how things pan out.